where are we heading?

for some days now serious thoughts are passing through my head.where are we heading? we are so blind to see the happenings around us.either we close our eyes voluntarily or we are not in a position to see the things .progress of a country is understood by the quality of people, citizen who live here , the direction is decided by the collective intelligence of the citizens .according to me, a country is heading in a downhill direction if its citizens are able to transgress the social laws and regulations of the state with ease and without any feeling of guilt or fear of the state.

this is what is happening right now in india, the country where values and virtues were given importance over the rest of the things.one may ask "common yaar..why so serious ..it has happend in the past " ,ya certainly i dont deny that it has happened in the past .there was always a sect in our society which has multiple faces ,who transgressed the laws then.but never they were in the mainstream of the society.

there are politicians ,officers ,industrial bigwigs, eminent public faces involved and caught in various scams,corruptions etc during all the times.but the common man always feared law, social status and looked at these things with speculation only.this is not the case now.in tamilnadu nearly 30 students have been caught by the university for allegedly forging the marksheet and correcting the scores.these people are not any political bigwigs,industrialists,officers but common people like us. the selfishness and self centerdness is alarming.the people are not worried about others, nor they do have the guilt that they are crossing the limit and grabbing an opportunity which should go rightfully to others.it is natural for the parents to wish that there kids get to have good careers, but not at the cost of others.who gave this kind of guts to them? the feeling that they can get along. a sense of carelessness, who is responsible?

so the people have come to this attitude , we can do anything for the sake of our life,we can do nothing but to pray to god to give us strength,courage and conviction in our minds to lead a peaceful life in this world

My experiences with truth-1

I am trying to scrutinize retrospectively from here , it might be a little biographical , this is a journey within myself and trying to explore my understanding of life.a kind of deconstruction of what i am today.hope someday it might be useful for someone or even myself.the events will not be chronological (and not even logical sometimes!!).

there are a lot of thoughts, incidents which are popping in my mind right now.the reason could be i met the person yesterday who forgave me for my first blemish for the first time , shanthi miss .again the incident may be a silly ' growing up' from the reader's perspective ,but it is indeed one great event that has kept me in track.now when i think retrospectively if i could have got a corporal punishment at that stage for my act , may be i would have not been what i am today(what is that act? well will tell eventually:)).this is one of my school day childhood memories i always recall.

i was going to school, a school which carries a great tradition in our area, a school with high reputation of bringing out so many doctors and engineers every year, muthiah alagappa matriculation higher secondary school, in a small village -kotaiyur which has huge houses in the heartland of chettinad .this is the school were i studied or literally spent my hours,living there with the desks,the bell, the ground,the bus for the 14 years ,right from my kg till i completed my higher secondary education.

unlike many kids who cry and moan on the first day of schooling ,i was told from my mom that i was different .it was my mom who cried on sending me to school on the first day and i consoled her :) our house was in an area called subramaniapuram, a neat locale with wide roads . opposite to our house there was a school bus stop, known as correspondent stop (named so because our school corespondent's house was near by).i was told from my mom that as a kid ,everyday i would come out of my home and wait for the school bus and bade farewll to all the uniformed noble souls who carry more burden than the jesus christ himself and then only go back inside home.in weekends alas it will be hard to convince me as i would be crying continuously to see the blue bus of my school.naturally i loved going to school, i thought that they all are going to school and having fun there.

then came the first day of schooling...

random thoughts.....26/8/10

a compilation of my facebook status..

1.being religious and being spiritual are two different things , being religious doesnt mean being spiritual and being spiritual has nothing to do with being religious.

2.hatred and anger are more contagious than joy and happiness.

3. the heart has reasons that reason mind does not know.-Pascal

4.if you think you get confused, in confusion you cant think!!better dont think anything !

5.if you want to be faithful to someone, start by being faithful to yourself- paulo coelho

6.Try to be "good", you'll be judged.Try to be yourself, you'll be criticized. Better to choose the second option and move ahead; God will never let you down-paulo coelho

7.intellectuals need a hero who can touch the masses to propagate the message. intelligence and heroism must coexist in a healthy society

8.we tend to overlook some day to day joys, say a conversation with a friend, but now when we look back we miss those small things..

9.What makes people weak? Their need forvalidation and recognition, their need to feel important. Don't get caught in this trap.-paulo coelho

10.criticizing the acts is different from criticizing the individuals. the former is constructive one and there will be always a love at the heart. while the latter is manifestation of pure hatred.

11.any amount of justification for any ideology that warrants killing of any life should be shunned in the root.

12.practical pessimism is better than hyper and impractical optimism.

13.there is always a big gap between what i am and what i want to be..i am always trying to close the difference..

14. independence is a myth!in this world no one can ever be completely independent, interdependence is the beauty of life!!

15.judgeMENTALITY is a disease of mind , we always try do judge people and fail to trust!!and make a fool of ourselves! that makes us prejudicial!!

16.the problem with the intellectuals is that they feel they are intellectual and others are dumb.they have this saviour attitude , they wont respect the individual preferences.

17.anger - is of two kinds, that one which arises when our ego is targeted , and the other one which arises when you see the wrongs in the society.the former one doesnt allow us to grow and hence it is bad. the latter is the anger which we must show then and now.unfortunately , we get angry for petty reasons due to blown up ego and keep ourself mum and detached when there is a social crisis!what kind of creature are we?

18.You have 2 choices in life: a] to find a way b] to make one -paulo

19.wonder !how much of hate around us in our daily life! wonder how comfortable people are with hating! when there is always a choice of love and trust

20. Don't marry the person you want to live with, marry the one you cannot live without, but whatever you do, you'll regret it later:).

21.even if we become a pauper , we still have one thing to give to this world, unconditional LOVE

22.feeling proud-pride of any form, of the nation ,place,religion,race,caste,language- i feel it is a fanaticism.these are the names, which the clever people have used to manipulate the people and make them emotionally together and intellectually dumb.and sow the seeds of hatred.

23.A true poet does not bother to be poetical. Nor does a nursery gardener scent his roses. An artist cannot speak about his art any more than a plant can discuss horticulture-paulo coelho

24.darkness is an inherent part of light, they mutually coexist, without the existence of darkness light has no meaning.

25.there is no Saviour for us, in this world we are on our own, the good and the bad that happens to us, the responsibility is ours

26.the best thing we can show to any being in this world is the respect they deserve

27.those little things, which we do out of love, without expecting money or anything,only those things will help us to walk with our heads held high.

28.there are 2 kinds of men and 2 kinds of women,masculine men,and feminine men,masculine women, and feminine women.masculine men and feminine women is what you call a perfect match.feminine men and masculine men is what you call as understanding couple.feminine men and feminine women is what you call the voice of silence.but if masculine men and masculine women, its time to get ready with your divorce papers

29.the solution to every problem in this world lies in a simple four letter word, which we all know but hesitate to practice -LOVE

30.tolerance is what u show to strangers!!acceptance is what you give to loved ones!!endurance is what u show for ur enemies!!

31.the biggest illusion is that we will be secure some day, always working for that illusory sense of security!!insecurity is the core concept of life!!we can never be secure in this momentary life!!

32.the world is run by 1 million evil people, and 10 million stupids and 100 million cowards..

33.life is so simple..we are working hard to make as complicated as possible..:)

34.things which we dont understand, we either worship them or deny there existence!!

35. life is a travel between purity by ignorance to purity by intelligence!!

PURITY BY IGNORANCE TO PURITY BY INTELLIGENCE..

If you think a little bit deeper on the lines of the topic. you could find that this is true. the beginning of life, the evolution of universe, evolution of human kind all could be understood like this. the so called starting point and the so called destination are one and the same. a step backward from were we start is the place were we want to reach. most, almost very few tread this immediate backward integration. the life is a circle, every process is a circle, and is endless. we start out a journey thinking of some destination, we face all the odds, travel through difficult times, and end up in the destination were it all started.!!so whats the difference? initially we are pure , untouched by any acts that is wordly, in the end again we are pure but this time we are aware that we are pure, this sums the differnce..this mere knowledge is bliss.the journey to eternity may take lives, but we all will be there one day.it may end in a day, the revealation may take years for a few, a life time for others, and many life times for most of us.on the way we will be confronting our own images, identities, beliefs, making us better prepared for facing the ultimate truth.

fello travellers..enjoy your travel!!! we are destined to reach.

CONQUERING FEAR!!

The most important and biggest fear of human kind is the fear of fears and fear of death. when i think about fear, some thoughts came in my mind,
1.why are we fearing ?? the basic question
2.how do we fear?
3.how to overcome fear?
these fundamental questions need to be answered. first let us try to understand what fear is all about, fear is a sense of insecurity, imagining or assuming the effects of a particular act , and the damage it could inflict in physical, psychological and social levels. what if is the main question that spurs the feeling of fear. what if is an unique question that can be utilised in a positive manner , to bring a positive vibration by thinking in an optimistic manner, but this rarely happens, the tool of what if is mostly used to spur negative feelings of fear and doubts.what if i win a lottery is just a dream, and may give us a temporary euphoria.where as what if i loose my money or respect is a more serious thing, and it has its own psychological impact.
we fear because its our tendency, we have it in our genes, we have been exposed to too many turmoils in thousands and thosands of generation we have feared over nature, over uncertainity, over things and situations which we feel are out of control of us, sometimes we fear for imaginations. yes human kind has feared, yet faced the conflicts and has survived the odds, and always evolving towards something better . fear is like any other emotion of joy , love,anger, sex in humanbeings. when we understand ourselves, what we fear, and what makes us fear, you could always come up with such an anlysis. fear makes us panic, it makes us think, it makes us to act. the first reaction to fear is denial, even in presence of a perpetual danger, we wont want to believe that this is going to happen, and we try to tame our mind that this fear is imaginary. the next reaction for fear is escapism, now as we percieve the things a little bit closer, and understand the fact behind them, we put our maximum efforts to avoid confronting fear face to face. that gives us a temporary sense of wellbeing. the next reaction to fear is the actual situation, meeting your fear. as time passes, when you have crossed the situation , you could definitly know that its not as bad as you feared. the solution is simple, when you have some fear, think about the worst thing that can happen, and the impact it can have on you, then you could think of some measures to reduce the damage if it actually happens or you could learn to acept and keep yourself happy. the effect of fear produces more damage than the actual event could trigger.
i also believe that you could not conquer fear fully and definitly couldnt be 100% fearless (well we can pretend so). its not such a bad thing in life, infact sometimes these fears will help us to be a better person. for e.g the myth stories in india, where the god will punish every bad act of us has kept most indians in a path that wont harm others, lifting the moral values. its a myth that one could conquer his fear, first we need to understand and accept our fears, then we are a step closer to overcome that, we can find a mechanism , a thought process and surely could overcome the feeling of fear .
let us try to be a better person..the life is short to enjoy a plenty , we need not give a lot of time for these feelings of fear.

IDENTIES AND SPIRITUALITY

A lot of thinking has been happening for some days now. some serious questions have popped out of mind, which needs to be answered. how far are we attached to our various identities, ?? we want to have an association with several objectives things / thoughts, we feel that we must be identified wuth that. infact i see that getting a prper identity is itself is one of the prime objectives of our life. we get a sense of purpose in creating an image for ourself, i can do this do that , but i cant do that etc etc.
i stumbled upon a thought that these identies which we create and feel proud of possesing may become an obstacle after a certain level. it becomes difficuilt for us to transcnd our own identities, associations, they start boosting our ego and even hampers the thinking process, that makes us prejudicial and judgemental, also we will fail to get some experiences.
the indian spiritual thoughts basically revolves arround loosing the identity and transcending above . we may associate with our native town/ village in our early ages, but when we grow up and go to places our minds get broadened and we tend to loose that identity then we may have an identity of caste, religion, language ultimately when we think and go beyond these are all reductionistic attitudes and keeps us restricted , inhibited.
even the national pride, is a kind of identity, we may become blind of the rest of the wonders of the world.
the next thing is male female identity, thats also keeps one or the other dominant, transcending all these basic identities, we need to cultivate an universal vision, a broader identity of human race or even broader as just a living being, or even broader as just a being in earth. i do beleieve that we may not be hampered , and a immense feeling of love will flow through our heart.
aggregating identity and loosing the same are part of human learning process.think about this.

PEOPLE AND POWER

this is election time in india,when people tell me that democracy is the best form of the government were the lagaan is with the people and its people's choice and wish that determines and makes a difference. ideally speaking, ya democracy going by its definition of the people , for the people and by the people must respect the citizen, by its virtue of definition of democracy people are the rulers of the rulers, but does this really happen?? daily when i switch on the tv news channels, the news we see daily is some leader distributing money to his constituency people , or some politicos lashing and bashing at the opponents, that too in an unruly way, spreading hate, the behaviour of parties , partymen, and thier henchmen all are frustrating. i accept that democracy is the best machinery! but best when its proper at all the levels and perfection at various levels. democracy= opportunism , nothing more that that. in olden days we had monarchy, we had a king who can rule us, we had some great visionaries as kings like the mauryans, akbar etc, similairly we had blood thirsty and power thirsty people like genghis khan etc. monarchy makes a person to think that he is not answerable to any one, and the monarchy becomes a dictatorship. army rule is another option, yes indeed it has its own merits like discipline and law n order under control. indeed the army has a bunch of dedicated people, who love the country more than themself. but again law cant be forced, i strongly believe that laws has to be understood and abide rather than forcing. army rule doesnt seems to be a longterm option. the problem with our country is that , the reform must begin with u and me, when we ourself wait for the next person to be perfect and blame others and do the same mistake, which we are blaming on others, what kind of progress is this? we people have a mass or rather a mob mentality when some one does something all of us run and do the same, but we dont want ourself to step out from our safety zone. life is about taking risks, it doesnt matter whether we will win or loose, but its about intentions, and determinations. let us be the change. let the revolution begin from us. from within. exercise ur right to vote. select the candidate rightly . dont look upon his party , his caste , ur personal benefit, religion, but about his qualifications, it doesnt matter even though u know he will loose in election, but even then u can be happy about making ur choice right. please do vote and vote for right persons to represent ur voice.