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Thursday, February 11, 2010

CONQUERING FEAR!!

The most important and biggest fear of human kind is the fear of fears and fear of death. when i think about fear, some thoughts came in my mind,
1.why are we fearing ?? the basic question
2.how do we fear?
3.how to overcome fear?
these fundamental questions need to be answered. first let us try to understand what fear is all about, fear is a sense of insecurity, imagining or assuming the effects of a particular act , and the damage it could inflict in physical, psychological and social levels. what if is the main question that spurs the feeling of fear. what if is an unique question that can be utilised in a positive manner , to bring a positive vibration by thinking in an optimistic manner, but this rarely happens, the tool of what if is mostly used to spur negative feelings of fear and doubts.what if i win a lottery is just a dream, and may give us a temporary euphoria.where as what if i loose my money or respect is a more serious thing, and it has its own psychological impact.
we fear because its our tendency, we have it in our genes, we have been exposed to too many turmoils in thousands and thosands of generation we have feared over nature, over uncertainity, over things and situations which we feel are out of control of us, sometimes we fear for imaginations. yes human kind has feared, yet faced the conflicts and has survived the odds, and always evolving towards something better . fear is like any other emotion of joy , love,anger, sex in humanbeings. when we understand ourselves, what we fear, and what makes us fear, you could always come up with such an anlysis. fear makes us panic, it makes us think, it makes us to act. the first reaction to fear is denial, even in presence of a perpetual danger, we wont want to believe that this is going to happen, and we try to tame our mind that this fear is imaginary. the next reaction for fear is escapism, now as we percieve the things a little bit closer, and understand the fact behind them, we put our maximum efforts to avoid confronting fear face to face. that gives us a temporary sense of wellbeing. the next reaction to fear is the actual situation, meeting your fear. as time passes, when you have crossed the situation , you could definitly know that its not as bad as you feared. the solution is simple, when you have some fear, think about the worst thing that can happen, and the impact it can have on you, then you could think of some measures to reduce the damage if it actually happens or you could learn to acept and keep yourself happy. the effect of fear produces more damage than the actual event could trigger.
i also believe that you could not conquer fear fully and definitly couldnt be 100% fearless (well we can pretend so). its not such a bad thing in life, infact sometimes these fears will help us to be a better person. for e.g the myth stories in india, where the god will punish every bad act of us has kept most indians in a path that wont harm others, lifting the moral values. its a myth that one could conquer his fear, first we need to understand and accept our fears, then we are a step closer to overcome that, we can find a mechanism , a thought process and surely could overcome the feeling of fear .
let us try to be a better person..the life is short to enjoy a plenty , we need not give a lot of time for these feelings of fear.

2 comments:

Miel said...

hey i quit fearing :)

suki said...

dont tell me that it is after reading this:)